Abusive Men: Top 10 Signs of an abusive man
Abusive men are often survivors of abuse themselves. Signs of an abusive man lying from emotional, verbal, physical or sexual abuse. Frequently an emotionally abusive man is also a verbally abusive man or a combination of all types of abuse. A sign of an abusive man can be usually found after a few dates if you pay attention, ask a lot of questions and some of the investigation into his past.
Abusive relationships are characterized by control games, violence, jealousy and sources of sex and emotional contact. An emotionally abusive man is harder to pin-point and a skilled, abusive man can easily make you think that you are not good enough or that everything is your fault. According to a current survey of abuse, more than 7,000 women over 56 per cent had been sexually abused out. It is just as difficult to recover from emotional abuse as from physical abuse. Emotional abuse causes low self-esteem and depression. An abusive man can say that he loves you or that he will change, so you do not leave. But the more often you take him back, the more control he will win. Empty promises become the norm. Make sure that you pay attention to his actions and not just his words. As the old saying goes, “Actions speak louder than words.” Abusive relationships are never abusive in the beginning. If they were, women would dump the abusive men immediately in search of a good man.
According to the American Psychological Association Force on Violence and Family, over 4 million American women experience a serious assault by a partner each year! Who can forget when heavy weight champion Mike Tyson was convicted of raping Desiree Washington and sentenced to six years in prison. Tyson served three years before being released on parole. Thereafter, he married Robin Givens but they divorced just a year later, on Valentine’s Day because Givens claimed Tyson abused her. Abusive behavior touches all sectors of society.
Have we broken the top 10 signs of an abusive man. If your partner shows any of these signs, it may be time to evaluate your relationship and seek help or be off.
1 Jealousy and possessiveness – is jealous over your family, friends, colleagues. Tries to isolate you. Does his wife and children as his own and not as unique individuals. Accuses you of cheating or flirting with other men for no reason. Always asks where and with whom you have been in an accusing manner.
2 Control – He is overly demanding of your time and have the center of your attention. He controls finances, the car and the activities you will participate in. angry if woman begins showing signs of independence or strength.
3 Superiority – He is always right, to win or be responsible. He justifies his actions so that he always “right” by blaming you or others. A verbally abusive man will talk to you or call you names, so you feel better. Target of a violent man is for you weak so they can feel powerful. Abusers are frequently insecure and this power makes them feel better about themselves.
4 Manipulates – Tells you you’re crazy or stupid so made the blame on you. Tries to make you think that it is your fault that he insulting. He says he can not help insulting, so you feel sorry for him, me, and you keep trying to “help” him. Tells you others are unstable.
5 Mood Swings – His mood switches from aggressive and abusive to apologetic and loving after the abuse has taken place.
6 Actions do not match words – He breaks promises, says he loves you and then insulted.
7 They punished – an emotionally abusive man may withhold sex, emotional intimacy, or plays the “silent game” as punishment when he is not his way he verbally abused frequently criticizes you ..
8 Unwilling to seek help – an abusive man does not believe that there is something wrong with him, so why should he to seek help? Has its flaws do not recognize or blames it on his childhood or outside circumstances.
9 Disrespects women – shows no respect towards his mother, sisters, or any women in his life. Thinks women are stupid and worthless.
10 Has a history of abusing women and / or was or even abused animals – offenders repeat their patterns and seek women who are submissive and can be controlled. Abusive conduct a generational dysfunction and abused men have a great chance to addicts. Men who abuse animals are much more likely to abuse women also.
If you continue to stay in an abusive relationship because you think he will change and start treat them well, think again. An abusive man does not change without long-term therapy. Group discussions are particularly helpful in supporting abusive men recognize their abusive patterns. Type A personality types seem to be prone to abusive behavior by their aggressive nature. Drugs and alcohol can create or further escalate an abusive relationship. Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous are excellent programs for an addict. The perpetrators of the partners should also help for their codependent behavior at Codependents Anonymous.
If the abusive man is not willing to seek help, then you need measures to protect yourself and children by taking part you. By staying in an abusive relationship you tolerate it. If you’re not afraid to be able to survive because of finances, pick up the phone and start calling his book stalls. Try calling family, friends and acquaintances and ask if they can help or know how to help of ways. Once you leave, the offender can cry and beg for forgiveness, but do not go back until you spoken to his counselor and he has successfully completed a long-term therapy. Be prepared to increase for the abuse, after you leave, because the offender has lost control. The Bureau of Justice Statistics, more than three women killed on average by their husbands or boyfriends every day so please be careful. If you are not willing partners to seek help for his abusive behavior, your only option is to leave.
Stephany Alexander, Online Dating & Infidelity Expert. All rights reserved.